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Good day bloggers! Did you ever think about the relationship you’re in now or will be in the future? I bet you imagined someone charming but never went into the specific (and I say VITAL) details on how you want them to treat you. Sometimes we focus on the physical aspect of a relationship (do admit) and not so much minding the nitty-gritty behind it all. Yes, once in our life, we thought of saying yes to (insert: name of hot guy) and not the not-so-attractive-guy-next-door who would really treat us sincerely.
I’ve listed down your essential R-E-S-P-E-C-Ts to help you make more sensible relationships, if you know what I mean.
Respect –You need to regard the needs of your partner without sacrificing your own. When you have respect for the one you love, problems are easily solved (not per se). You have enough patience to actually listen to him/her because you regard them as someone close to you and one that needs attention. Love, however vague, is built on this. It is not a simple exchange of emotions but communication as well.
Empathy – In a nutshell, understanding is key. You need to assess the problems in your relationship and why such inevitable things happen. You talk about it and because, I’m assuming, you know one another very well, you will learn to understand where each one is coming from.
Sensitivity – Everyone likes to be handled differently. When your partner is having a bad day or simply needs some T-L-C, be sensitive enough to know how to be the right partner without having to be a handful. There’s a difference between being clingy, needy and being just plain caring. Sensitivity allows you to gauge where you two are in the relationship.
Perseverance – If you want to stay with your partner, please be determined to make things work. DO NOT run away your problems, DO NOT shut the door in her/his face, DO NOT curse him/her and DO NOT pretend like you’re not tearing one another to tears with the problems you pose to another. Problems are there to make you stronger, to realize that you really want to be together, not for you to hate/loathe/abhor one another for the rest of your teenage years. Take a tip from the movie, The Break-up – instead of being determined to fix things – they were determined to tear one another apart… see where that lead them.
Endearment – As I mentioned early, caring goes far. Being affectionate can always warm the heart (when done in the right place, the right time with the right person, and for the right person). I AM NOT PERTAINING TO P.D.A. Kissing may be entertaining for you and special someone, but not for everyone else in the room.
Compromise – Need I say more? You and your partner’s needs much go hand-in-hand. You share 50-50 in whatever is decided. If he wants basketball and you want ballet, make it work. If there’s a will, there is a way. Don’t ever think that you need more than him or her. You both entered in this relationship together so everything that is involved in your relationship, should be shared EQUALLY.
Time – is of essence. Your relationship heals and grows with the help of time. Try to spend quality time once a week and catch-up on whatever. Sometimes long, meaningful conversations are what determines a strong and true relationship. And that’s only possible with the presence of ample time.
The next time you enter in a relationship, don’t say yes because he or she was drop dead gorgeous -- say yes because you truly R-E-S-P-E-C-T one another. A relationship is not love when we do it to make ourselves better off, but when we are willing to accept and understand who they are and who we are. Cheers!
Take this quiz and see how strong YOUR relationship is with your special someone! Disclaimer: This quiz is only for fun and entertainment!
Or if you’re too lazy, check out this link to the song by JoJo, How to Touch a Girl.
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