Warning: This is catered to all the ladies out there.

Did Cupi d pass you by this year? (As Diana Vilibert would say it) – Fret no more – Valentines this year isn't going to be a spoiler. I've thought of reasons why we, single ladies, are going to have quite the blast this season of love. As I've said one too many times, love is pretty broad so if you're thinking the only way you'll b e feeling oh-so complete this Valentine's is if you spend it with someone special, then you're so wrong. Spending it with the people you love a.k.a. your family, friends, pets and even yourself with surely win you over. Remember: the true essence of Valentines''s celebrating love and all the beauty it brings.

My friends and I have always spent Valentine's together, whether we were single or not, we found it a point to get together as a way of toasting to true friendship. We make sure we're complete. We then have a simple dinner at a fancy restaurant (we saved up for it, of course). What do we do exactly? Well, we just talk, catch-up and enjoy the simple company of having one another in our lives. It's not everyday you find such amazing people. And that's how I see Valentine's Day. You don't have to feel gloomy or incomplete because no guy will offer you flowers or dinner by the beach. Set that fairytale aside and enjoy the real things in life – those that at the end of the day, you really feel a true romance because what you've witnessed is something real and life-embodying.

Why, you should be pretty darn happy you've got your gal pals and a pretty open heart for a pretty awesome day! "It is a great time to get dressed up, spoil yourself by having dinner with friends or your favorite guy friend that is also running solo. Have a glass of Champagne and cheer to love. Love is a wonderful thing whether you are in love, looking for love, quietly waiting for love or maybe just taking a break from love."

And, here are 10 more reasons to be glad you're by yourself as told by Laura Dempsey:

1. The invitations you receive are because you're you, not because you're so-and-so's S.O., or because the party-giver has a crush on your man. Your name is your own, and no effort need be put forth toward mashing together some Brangelina-type moniker. That kind of stuff often backfires, anyway: Blair and Bob (whoever they are) really resent being called "Blob."
2. Your spare time is your spare time. Spend it with Ben & Jerry, your pillow, a night's marathon of taped Dr. Phil, re-reading an old Harlequin or hours of World of Warcraft. Nobody's around to judge; nobody's calling to find out how you're doing or what you're up to. Saving the world is always an option, but if the couch beckons tonight, there's nobody to tell you it's time to work out.
3. Your money is your own. Spending $120 on face cream or chrome polish for your Harley isn't going to raise anybody's eyebrows or ruin anyone else's plans. You earned it, so you spend it. Or save it — another plus: Nobody's going to spend your money out from under you, either.
4. Introspection has one focus: You. Not you in relationship to somebody else, and not you in terms of how somebody else thinks you should be. You're alone, and whether it's by choice or by luck (good or bad), you've got time to think about the one person that matters.
5. Your dog can sleep on the bed. Face it: There's always one person in every couple who thinks dogs belong on the floor — if only those people would find each other to sleep with, the rest of us could sleep with our dogs. And dogs, though they may snore and smell and chase rabbits in their dreams, never ever complain about morning breath.
6. There's no need to dress up, tuck in, wash carefully or smile when you don't want to. After a long day at work, you're home and all bets — and belts — are off. The stomach relaxes, the hair droops, the toenails get cut. Wear what you find on the floor, as long as it's comfortable. Who's going to know?
7. Plans are constantly in flux — if that's the way you want it. He took the day off, so the trip to the Newport Aquarium is not an option. It's a plan, worked out and agreed upon and subject to change only under threat of breakup. Which, when you think about it, might be worth considering.
8. Nobody's going to buy you roses when you've always loved tulips. You've mentioned your aversion to roses dozens of times, but once you're a couple the listening stops, and roses it is. Roses are easy.
9. You're not about to get dumped. Think about it.
10. Finally, there's this piece of wisdom that turns up on blogs and T-shirt and bumper-stickers wherever single people can be found: It's better to be alone than to wish you were.

Read her full article: http://www.daytondailynews.com/l/content/oh/story/living/2009/01/03/single_valentinesday.html?cxtype=rss&cxsvc=7&cxcat=47

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