The book, I Keep Love Real, by Lora Garcia invites to be true ourselves and really understand the essence of sex through the form of chastity and purity. She says, chastity and purity isn’t an archaic idea, it actually is something that is cool. It can be cool again, because the benefits of it are cool. And before you starting switching blog sites since sex is so taboo and we treat it as something private and not necessarily open for discussion – you thought wrong. Because of this notion, sex becomes such a mystery that most of us fall trap to the many consequences it fails to mention when you’re in that moment. That moment, that I must say, could truly be escapable, if we only knew…


But considering we don’t – chastity isn’t about what we give or what we don’t give but who we give it to and meaning we attach to the idea of sex when we regard it. Lora says that we, the teens of today, aren’t so different from the teens of yesteryear. We are, however, suffering from a “vision problem”. And she sums it up with this: “I don’t think we understand what we are waiting for. What are the benefits if we wait? What is the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? Teens have the capacity to wait. Present it to them in a reasonable and non-threatening way. These reasons are weak, lacking in water, those “Wag kang magssex kasi mabubuntis ka” reasons. We have access to more information nowadays. We are not a generation of people that will take everything sitting down, that we will just accept things. We have to be creative in trying to send the message across. The message is good. It’s true. That has never changed…but what has to change is the method.”


And we’ve heard it over and OVER again that it gets so sick we learn to tune it out. “Sex – everyone does it – so why can’t I?” – we keep telling ourselves. The book doesn’t close the idea that it won’t be able to touch on every audience or to inspire them to think of chastity in a new light. But it will directly or indirectly make us think, which the focal aim of Lora Garcia – to think about sex and what we’re really waiting for. What we’re waiting for? You’ll find out when you truly understand and respect yourself and your sexuality.


Let us not sell ourselves short. We are possibly led to wrong perspectives but at the end of the day, we all want respect. Chastity and purity in its greater essence gives justice to that. It allows us to experience the guilt-free pleasure of loving.


As I bid farewell to writing weekly blogs *sobs*… I must say this has been a great experience. I invite you to become future bloggers of the new love revolution! There is so much to learn with topics we talk about weekly and the videos we watch just so we can make sense of the lessons we impart to you guys. If there’s one thing I learned and have reasserted to myself is that I respect life and respect love. I see it as something so precious that when I find that great love, it will be divine. I hope you realize the beauty of love and why you guys, people capable of love, are truly so lucky to experience such a once-in-a-lifetime experience. I’ve said it a million times and I will say it again… NEVER rely on fairytale-sweeping love but a love that is truly sustainable and sincere of its intention. Keeping love real is not about the physical appearance as I discussed in the Twilight saga, but understanding and accepting the entirety of ourselves and the person we’re with.


Kudos to love and the beauty it brings because what is life without it? We are always yearning for this because it never fails to deliver. Hurt, joy, pain – whatever it is, it’s amazing and we only grow to know so much. Everyday is day for love, may you cherish it as I do. When I’m with my friends, family or whoever, I think about love and how it encompasses my life.


Cheers, everyone. Remember: Love in a form of pain is still beauty in disguise ;)

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