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Ah, love. It gives you this rush; this sudden bolt which engulfs your body with sheer euphoria. You get butterflies in your stomach as you see your Romeo or Juliet, walking to you with a big smile on his/her face. You gush. Your cheeks flush. But then, there's one big problem: your parents are against him/her.
How do you do about with that?
Well, if it'd make you feel any better, you're not the only star-crossed couple out there. There are heaps of couples who face the problem of forbidden love. Let's face it, not all relationships are deemed as perfect. As the song said, "That you were Romeo you were throwing pebbles, and my Daddy said stay away from Juliet and I was crying on the staircase begging you please don't go." It seems as if despite the beauty of love, there's a huge barrier that hinders the love from happening and flourishing.
But I ask you, why are your parents against your relationship in the first place? There has got to be a reason behind it. Here are some possible reasons, and check which one(s) you're able to relate with.
1. "My parents think he/she is a bad influence!"
- Be honest with yourself, is he/she a bad influence? Has your relationship with him/her resulted to your addiction to some vice or to the low grades you've been having recently. If so, then they're probably right. A relationship must not degrade you in any way; rather, it must be able to keep you inspired to be on top of your game at all times. Solution? Well, at this point there's really no use rebelling against your parents because the more you'd be distant from them and numerous problems would erupt. You could opt to be more attuned with your studies and not let your addiction to your new-found vice destroy your life. Your parents love you and they only want the best for you. When it comes to the bad guy/bad girl radar, they're extremely good at it. If you want this relationship to last, tell your significant other about it, and if he/she is really serious with you, he/she will try to adjust to meet your parents' approval.
2. "My parents think that I'm too young!"
- A lot of couples experience this, wether they're really young or their parents think that they're not mature enough. I've had a share of the "you're too young to be in a serious relationship" talk, and I could say that parents need to find that sense of maturity in you. Despite my age (20), my mom still thinks that I'm too young. There's no point in arguing with parents on this case, because the more they'd have reasons to go against your relationship. The more immature they'd think of you, especially if you end up whining, locking yourself up in your room, and rebelling against them. Solution? Show them. Show them that it's not really in the age and that you can be mature. Be responsible in all aspects of your life -- be it in academics, in your family, and in your relationship. Don't rush things and expect your parents to pick up all the loose ends quickly. Give them time. If you're really serious, you won't give up on real love -- no matter how long it takes to gain their acceptance.
3. "My parents just don't understand us!"
- There are times when parents seem to be too far-off, and that their judgments tend to be out of this world. We grew up from a far different generation from theirs, and such gap might have resulted to their "shrewdness." Why not take time in letting your parents understand. Make it easy and light for them to comprehend. Try being more open to your parents. The more you're close-minded about things, then the more your parents would be puzzled and judge your relationship wrongly.
With patience, determination, motivation, and real love, the possibility of hearing, ""Marry me, Juliet - you'll never have to be alone. I love you and that's all I really know. I talked to your dad - go pick out a white dress; It's a love story - baby just say 'Yes,"" may just happen and you'll attain your 'happily ever after.'
Posted by Gliza Marasigan at 4:30 PM | 0 Comment/s
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